Thursday, July 21, 2011
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
I think I might have ADD?
Question:
I have really bad concentration and always procrastinate. I lose things often and have a very hard time finishing off projects. Maybe it is just my personality? I have never been able to concentrate in school. I always day dream. Even though this is the case I have always done well in school by teaching myself at the last minute. I achieved 2 A's and a B in the first year of my A levels (AS) in difficult subjects (Bio, chem and Eng). I have just finished my second year and I think I have failed all my exams because the workload was too much and it was too difficult to do in 2/3 weeks.
My teachers say I'm lazy but I really don't think I am. As far as I can remember I have been extremely messy, disorganized and I don't think I've ever done my homework. I'm good at getting the ideas for homework/projects and enjoy starting them but I have a hard time finishing them off. A while ago I received funding to start my own project with some primary school kids. I started the project and my friend had to finish it off.
Please help. Thanks in advance.
Answer:
It does not matter what name you give it but the symptoms imply that medication for ADD would certainly help. I agree, you are not lazy all you need is a motivating direction to maintain your focus and then you can accomplish anything you want. In addition to medication there are organizational skills that you can learn that will help you very much. Just to give you a start; the main thing that seems to cause the problem is the feeling of being overwhelmed. The feeling of being overwhelmed can be circumvented by making lists of what you have to do. the list can be infinitely long it does not matter and everyday you will look at the list and you will take a few things and break them down into chunks, I'm talking really small details that are easy to do, and you will do as many of those small details as you can during the day and it does not matter if you finish or not. The only thing that matters is that you start to do them. the rule for picking the few things every day is to choose the few things that when completed will give you the biggest sense of accomplishment and that seem to you to be the most important and necessary for achieving a certain goal which is whatever you decide it to be.
I have really bad concentration and always procrastinate. I lose things often and have a very hard time finishing off projects. Maybe it is just my personality? I have never been able to concentrate in school. I always day dream. Even though this is the case I have always done well in school by teaching myself at the last minute. I achieved 2 A's and a B in the first year of my A levels (AS) in difficult subjects (Bio, chem and Eng). I have just finished my second year and I think I have failed all my exams because the workload was too much and it was too difficult to do in 2/3 weeks.
My teachers say I'm lazy but I really don't think I am. As far as I can remember I have been extremely messy, disorganized and I don't think I've ever done my homework. I'm good at getting the ideas for homework/projects and enjoy starting them but I have a hard time finishing them off. A while ago I received funding to start my own project with some primary school kids. I started the project and my friend had to finish it off.
Please help. Thanks in advance.
Answer:
It does not matter what name you give it but the symptoms imply that medication for ADD would certainly help. I agree, you are not lazy all you need is a motivating direction to maintain your focus and then you can accomplish anything you want. In addition to medication there are organizational skills that you can learn that will help you very much. Just to give you a start; the main thing that seems to cause the problem is the feeling of being overwhelmed. The feeling of being overwhelmed can be circumvented by making lists of what you have to do. the list can be infinitely long it does not matter and everyday you will look at the list and you will take a few things and break them down into chunks, I'm talking really small details that are easy to do, and you will do as many of those small details as you can during the day and it does not matter if you finish or not. The only thing that matters is that you start to do them. the rule for picking the few things every day is to choose the few things that when completed will give you the biggest sense of accomplishment and that seem to you to be the most important and necessary for achieving a certain goal which is whatever you decide it to be.
How can I heal myself from emotional distress?
Question:
I've been through a lot of emotional distress during my life and these past couple of years has been really hard on me. I can't even sleep at night. I cannot afford a psychologist so what can I do to erase the pain and move forward?
Answer:
The best way to remove the distress is to look at the source and remap your interpretation of it. the reason you are in distress is because your mental perception of the "cause" continues playing in your head like a broken record and influencing your emotions. is what you want to do is stop the playback by putting in another record. in other words, remap the mental interpretation of the "cause". for example if something negative happened to you that caused the emotional distress you may want to reevaluate that occurrence and find out how it can make you a better, more experienced person. you may even be able to figure out how to use that experience to help others who are experiencing emotional distress and thereby give back to the world. giving back always is very healing. Chronic stress is almost always caused by excessive negative thinking. through specific techniques you can learn to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones.
I've been through a lot of emotional distress during my life and these past couple of years has been really hard on me. I can't even sleep at night. I cannot afford a psychologist so what can I do to erase the pain and move forward?
Answer:
The best way to remove the distress is to look at the source and remap your interpretation of it. the reason you are in distress is because your mental perception of the "cause" continues playing in your head like a broken record and influencing your emotions. is what you want to do is stop the playback by putting in another record. in other words, remap the mental interpretation of the "cause". for example if something negative happened to you that caused the emotional distress you may want to reevaluate that occurrence and find out how it can make you a better, more experienced person. you may even be able to figure out how to use that experience to help others who are experiencing emotional distress and thereby give back to the world. giving back always is very healing. Chronic stress is almost always caused by excessive negative thinking. through specific techniques you can learn to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Nothing Other Than Dust
Professor Yaakov (Jack) Hanoka once announced at a board meeting that “everyone should walk around with two pieces of paper in their pockets. On one piece it should say: All I am is ashes and dust. And on the other: Everything in the universe G d created for me. The challenge for everyone is to hold these two disparate concepts in harmony.”
Monday, May 23, 2011
Why Do I Stay Stuck?
Question:
After much contemplation I have had time to realize that the reason I remain stuck in certain actions is because I am afraid of change. That means that so long as I can occupy myself with something that does not move me outside of my current situation than I have all the desire in the world to do it. After all, I t is always preferable to do something than nothing. But when it comes time to do something that may move me out of my current situation I become debilitated. When I maintain status quo, I feel like it is in my control to do something about changing my situation. But what if I do something and the situation stays the same or gets worse. Then it is no longer in my control and I have failed. It is better to be in the known situation no matter what the situation is rather that the unknown. The unknown in this case being, "what if I do something and fail, then what will I do?"
Answer:
Consider what your options are now in your current situation. Make a physical list of your options. Now, tell yourself, out loud, or write down on a piece of paper, "change brings opportunity". This means that no matter what your situation is, by taking action and doing something you are moved out of your current situation and into a situation with more options. The one step you take will automatically bring you more opportunity and thereby more control than you had before.
Remember: there are two types of movements those that keep you stuck where you are and those that move you outside of your current static state. The key word here is outside doing outside of yourself. Outside your current state etc.
Once a guy named Jeff wanted to start a business and he knew that he needed to make up a list of all the things that his business would do. In order to make up this list, he would have to dig inside himself and really find all that he was capable of offering as a business. For some reason he kept doing on line searches about businesses. These online searches would take him all day, day in and day out. He was not able to move past this stage. Finally he realized that he was procrastinating because he was afraid to make a move. Once he realized this he made a plan. This was his first step. After that it really began to flow. More and more options began to open up for him.
Once a lady named Janet wanted to be a singer. She kept worrying about what would happen if people started calling her for shows. Would she have the strength to sing so much? In the meantime she wasn't singing at all. Once she realized this she also made a plan and slowly step by step things began to move and she remained in control of her situation. There was no longer anything to fear.
After much contemplation I have had time to realize that the reason I remain stuck in certain actions is because I am afraid of change. That means that so long as I can occupy myself with something that does not move me outside of my current situation than I have all the desire in the world to do it. After all, I t is always preferable to do something than nothing. But when it comes time to do something that may move me out of my current situation I become debilitated. When I maintain status quo, I feel like it is in my control to do something about changing my situation. But what if I do something and the situation stays the same or gets worse. Then it is no longer in my control and I have failed. It is better to be in the known situation no matter what the situation is rather that the unknown. The unknown in this case being, "what if I do something and fail, then what will I do?"
Answer:
Consider what your options are now in your current situation. Make a physical list of your options. Now, tell yourself, out loud, or write down on a piece of paper, "change brings opportunity". This means that no matter what your situation is, by taking action and doing something you are moved out of your current situation and into a situation with more options. The one step you take will automatically bring you more opportunity and thereby more control than you had before.
Remember: there are two types of movements those that keep you stuck where you are and those that move you outside of your current static state. The key word here is outside doing outside of yourself. Outside your current state etc.
Once a guy named Jeff wanted to start a business and he knew that he needed to make up a list of all the things that his business would do. In order to make up this list, he would have to dig inside himself and really find all that he was capable of offering as a business. For some reason he kept doing on line searches about businesses. These online searches would take him all day, day in and day out. He was not able to move past this stage. Finally he realized that he was procrastinating because he was afraid to make a move. Once he realized this he made a plan. This was his first step. After that it really began to flow. More and more options began to open up for him.
Once a lady named Janet wanted to be a singer. She kept worrying about what would happen if people started calling her for shows. Would she have the strength to sing so much? In the meantime she wasn't singing at all. Once she realized this she also made a plan and slowly step by step things began to move and she remained in control of her situation. There was no longer anything to fear.
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